170: Unpacking Toxic Relationships



This week we’re tackling quite a big topic on toxic relationships, red flags and boundaries. We absolutely don’t expect to cover everything and this is as much us navigating our way through this rather than us talking about dos and don’ts, because everyone has toxic relationships in their lives, whether or not they’re aware of them yet, it could be family, friends, colleagues, their partner and coming to terms with the fact that a relationship is toxic is a huge confrontation in itself.

But it’s not always as simple as cutting toxicity out of our lives – is it really toxicity or is it a difference of opinions? How do you deal with boundaries being repeatedly broken especially by colleagues or friends? What’s a red flag and what’s actually a pink flag?

We’d love to hear from you, if you have any thoughts on this episode or any future topics please get in touch on the contact details below:

growthinprogresspod@gmail.com / @growthinprogresspod
charlottephoebe.com / @charlotte.phoebe
helenabradbury.com / @helenabradbury

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169: The Truth Behind Body Image & Self Perception



We’re back from our break and we’re diving straight into the big juicy topics this season, kicking off with the truth about body image and how we perceive ourselves. Let’s be honest, none of us are immune to the constant and pervasive talk of our bodies and how we look. In many cases it can leave us feeling sad, shameful and, at it’s worst, damage our own self worth. After a few recent conversations we’ve got a new perspective on self worth and body image though, so we want to share that with you and as ever please get in touch with your thoughts.

We’d love to hear from you, if you have any thoughts on this episode or any future topics please get in touch on the contact details below:

growthinprogresspod@gmail.com / @growthinprogresspod
charlottephoebe.com / @charlotte.phoebe
helenabradbury.com / @helenabradbury

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168: Being Hard On Yourself Is Not How To Stay Accountable



Accountability is really important for motivating yourself and holding yourself to things, but if you’re using shame, guilt, negative self-talk or self-criticism as a motivator, that isn’t the right way to keep yourself accountable. In this episode, we’re talking about how easy it is to to fall into a habit of berating ourselves if we’ve let some of our good habits slip or we’re not where we want to be with a goal or a project, but self-criticism isn’t going to make us (or you!) feel any more motivated to keep going. Holding yourself accountable, especially when life gets busy, means being compassionate and gentle accountability.

p.s. for the first time ever on the podcast, we have the same recommendation this week!

We’re taking a break next week but will be back in two week’s time with more episodes, get in touch below if there’s any topics you’d like us to cover.

We’d love to hear from you, if you have any thoughts on this episode or any future topics please get in touch on the contact details below:

growthinprogresspod@gmail.com / @growthinprogresspod
charlottephoebe.com / @charlotte.phoebe
helenabradbury.com / @helenabradbury

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167: How To Say No When An Opportunity Isn’t Right For You



We’re conditioned to believe that we should always say yes to any opportunity that comes our way. We should be grateful for it, whatever it may be, and say yes because of the other doors it could open in the future. But recently we’ve been thinking more about when saying yes to an opportunity isn’t actually the right thing for us. Maybe it’s not aligned to your longer term goals, maybe it’s something a previous version of yourself would have loved but it’s not quite right now, or maybe it just doesn’t spark any type of joy or excitement. There are plenty of times when saying “no” to an opportunity is far better than accepting it and understanding the difference can actually help you get closer to your goals.

We’d love to hear from you, if you have any thoughts on this episode or any future topics please get in touch on the contact details below:

growthinprogresspod@gmail.com / @growthinprogresspod
charlottephoebe.com / @charlotte.phoebe
helenabradbury.com / @helenabradbury

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166: The Difference Between Backing Down and Stepping Back



Backing down and stepping back might sound the same and they could often be used interchangeably. But are we’ve gotten older, we’ve realised that stepping back doesn’t mean defeat or that you’re giving in. Stepping back can mean enforcing boundaries, de-escalating a situation or protecting yourself.

There’s a lot of nuance in conflicts with colleagues, family or friends and standing up for what you believe or what you think is right is important. But it’s also important to recognise that it’s not your responsibility to make someone else see your point of view or take action.

We’d love to hear from you, if you have any thoughts on this episode or any future topics please get in touch on the contact details below:

growthinprogresspod@gmail.com / @growthinprogresspod
charlottephoebe.com / @charlotte.phoebe
helenabradbury.com / @helenabradbury

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165: Being Patient & Holding Yourself Accountable



We all want to be successful, and we want to be successful *right now*. But there’s a lot to be said for having some patience and holding yourself accountable to your goals over a longer period of time. There really is no thing as an overnight success, in reality it often takes years of hard work, growth and holding yourself accountable to achieve the things you want. We know it can feel so frustrating when you just want to get there but if you give yourself time and stay consistent then you’re far more likely to be on the right track. This week we’re sharing how we cultivate that patience in ourselves and why it can be so valuable to success.

 

We’d love to hear from you, if you have any thoughts on this episode or any future topics please get in touch on the contact details below:

growthinprogresspod@gmail.com / @growthinprogresspod
charlottephoebe.com / @charlotte.phoebe
helenabradbury.com / @helenabradbury

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164: Money, Shame And How To Overcome It



Shame and money are so closely intertwined. Whether you’re worried that you don’t have enough or you’re worried that you may be perceived badly for having more than you need, shame is often felt when money is discussed. There doesn’t need to be the association between shame and money though, and if we start to speak about it more then we can combat the shame we’ve all felt. Money, wanting it and having it, isn’t inherently bad and so associating it so closely with shame serves no one.

In this episode we’re discussing why shame has no part to play in the conversation about money, how you can combat your own judgements and why shame even exists around money.

We’d love to hear from you, if you have any thoughts on this episode or any future topics please get in touch on the contact details below:

growthinprogresspod@gmail.com / @growthinprogresspod
charlottephoebe.com / @charlotte.phoebe
helenabradbury.com / @helenabradbury

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163: Comparison of Where You Thought You’d Be vs. Where You Are



We’ve spoken about comparison before but this week we’re chatting specifically about where we thought we would be vs. where we actually are. A lot of these personal beliefs and expectations are based on life markers of what society says we should be doing or deems “successful”. But if you had a very specific idea of where you would be at this point in your life or what you would have achieved, it can be really challenging to reconcile where you actually are – regardless of all the other things you’ve done and achieved along the way.

Just because you’re not where you’d thought you would be, it doesn’t mean you’ve failed or you’re not thriving, sometimes the path you’ve taken instead is even better than what you’d expected, or you’ve maybe realised that what you thought you wanted is no longer right for you.

We’d love to hear from you, if you have any thoughts on this episode or any future topics please get in touch on the contact details below:

growthinprogresspod@gmail.com / @growthinprogresspod
charlottephoebe.com / @charlotte.phoebe
helenabradbury.com / @helenabradbury

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162: A Practical Guide to Manifesting



Before you turn off this episode, if you’re a bit of a skeptic when it comes to all things manifesting and abundance mindset then this episode is for you. Most people think that manifesting is what you see on TikTok, visualising something you want and it magically falls into your lap. The honest truth is that’s not how it works and we’re conscious of the privilege that feeds into that narrative. As two former skeptics and very practical people ourselves, we discuss how we actually came to see the benefits of manifesting and how we incorporate it into our lives in a practical way that helps us to manage our mindset and reach our goals.

We also have a few recommendations on books that we found really helped us understand more and move away from the skepical mindset.

We’d love to hear from you, if you have any thoughts on this episode or any future topics please get in touch on the contact details below:

growthinprogresspod@gmail.com / @growthinprogresspod
charlottephoebe.com / @charlotte.phoebe
helenabradbury.com / @helenabradbury

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161: Getting Back On Track: What To Do When You Feel Stuck



If you’re feeling a bit stuck at the moment and as though everything is a bit on top of you then don’t worry, we promise you aren’t alone. No matter how hard we try, sometimes life happens and everything becomes a little chaotic and overwhelming. When this happens there’s only really one solution: to try to get back on track. But if you’re feeling lost or a little stuck at the moment and aren’t sure where to start then we have you covered.

We’d love to hear from you, if you have any thoughts on this episode or any future topics please get in touch on the contact details below:

growthinprogresspod@gmail.com / @growthinprogresspod
charlottephoebe.com / @charlotte.phoebe
helenabradbury.com / @helenabradbury

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