All The Things We’re Doing Wrong



Helli has moved house (and apologies for her echoey muffled audio, studio space has not been figured out yet!) and Charlotte is back from Stockholm and the joys of the ABBA museum. This week we’re chatting about all the things we feel like we’re getting wrong, we’re told to eat local but also get eat diverse. Avoid Amazon but don’t overshop if you shop secondhard, reduce screentime but also stay informed.

We’re constantly told what to do, what’s right, what’s wrong, what you should do more of or less of. While we do constantly strive to do better by ourselves, by others and by the planet, the hard truth is that it’s impossible to get everything right on the overwhelming list of “perfect choices”, so how do we come to terms with what we can do?

 

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Ageing is a privilege



Most of us complain about getting older but between the two of us, we so often talk about how ageing is the ultimate privilege. That’s not to say ageing is easy and it certainly comes with its challenges, but ageing is a privilege that not everyone gets to experience and we live in a society, particularly as women, where we’re sold anti-wrinkle creams, wellness is commercialised and we praise people who look younger than their years. So why are we all striving for longevity, but we’re all still running away from what ageing actually looks like?

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A little more success please, if it isn’t too greedy?



Oh we’re getting deep into it this week discussing success, is there such a thing as *too much* success and is it greedy to ask for more when you already have so much? We live in an always-on society where striving for more seems to be the default. Where we always want to seek more the next big thing, but in doing so, are we being a bit greedy? Should we just be happy with what we have?

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Not everything has to be that deep



Charlotte has a new heated blanket and is getting ready to go to Stockholm, Helli is in the depths of house hunting and apologies for her muffled audio, her mic plug broke right before recording… We’ve got a juicy chat at the start of the episode about the dangers of what you share about your life online and how trends are mimicking history and the problems with idolising a part of history that you weren’t part of.

And of course we recognise the irony of our topic this week… but as two humanities students who love to analyse (and over-analyse!), however have we as a society gone too far with trying to find a deeper meaning in everything? Social media has made it easy to over-intellectualise everything from politics to pop culture and while the skills of analysis and being able to vocalise our opinions are important, maybe “being deep” has become performative because of that. Things are allowed to be fun, silly and entertaining, there is value in lightheartedness and maybe we just don’t need to have an opinion on absolutely everything.

Let us know your thoughts on this topic – we’d love to chat more about it (head over to our Substack to join the chat!)

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Why are we so obsessed with role models?



Helli’s been ill for the third time this year (thanks, 2025) and Charlotte has thrown her back out, BUT we’re here! This week we’re wondering, why are we obsessed with labelling people are role models and policing how people behave because we think they’re a role model? Really, anyone can be a role model online these days, so is being a role model even an accolade anymore? Or are we holding people to an impossible standard?

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Big, bad things & small, quiet joys



No. Stones. Left unturned. In this episode we have not one, but two honeymoon recaps, a first glance at the reading lists we managed to get through on said honeymoons, a must-read Substack (that isn’t our own) and a documentary we can’t stop thinking about. And then we’re asking the big question of WHY are the bad things so noisy while the good things happen so quietly? Is it actually a bad thing that we give more air time to the bad? Or is there already enough negativity out there? 

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Why You Should Set Creative Goals



Helli is a sickly Victorian child this week and Charlotte has her life together with new nails. Prepare yourself for a very in depth chat about Charlotte’s stringent Goodreads rating process and Helli’s meta take on reviewing books throughout life.

It’s February, maybe you’re struggling with your New Year goals or maybe you never made any, either way we feel like setting some creative goals rather than metrics-based goals is a great way to find more joy and authenticity in your life and to redefine what an achievement is. Yes, hitting sales targets or income goals is great, but not every goal has to be so black or white or come with so much stress/pressure. Trying something new, getting outside your comfort zone, making something imperfectly, enjoying yourself even if you’re not perfect at something, doing something in your community, these are all achievements, maybe it’s time we re-defined what goals and achievements look like.

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How We Feel About “Brain Rot” Content



Charlotte reveals which celebrities she gets mixed up and we’re both surprised to learn how literal the direct translation of the names are in Lion King… Plus who is the internet obsessed with right now.

So all this feels very fitting that we’re talking about brain rot content. Oxford English Dictionary named “brain rot” their word of the year for 2024, but what does it mean? What is brain rot content? How do we classify it and is it different for everyone? Is it fundamentally bad? And how much does our intention behind our content consumption decide whether or not it’s brain rot? Sometimes we find the low quality content or easy-to-consume content entertaining and it serves as escapism, but if that’s the dominant content we consume, how healthy is that for us?

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Actually, we’re just like other girls



A discussion about ice hockey was not on our 2025 podcast bingo card, but we like to keep you (and ourselves) guessing!

This week we’re chatting about the phrase “you’re not like other girls”. This phrase feels like it was normalised in 90s rom-coms and was always the “ultimate compliment” from a guy. We both get a big ick from this phrase for many reasons, why shouldn’t we be like other girls? and how does this backhanded compliment double as a patriarchal means of controlling women? Also, why do you never hear “you’re not like other boys”? We’re dissecting it all and we’d love to hear your thoughts too.

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Everything on our to *not* do lists this year



We’re back and boy are we feeling REFRESHED. It could be the 5 weeks off, it could be that crisp New Year feeling or it could be our brand new look, music and Substack (!). Whatever combination it is, we’re thrilled to be back bringing you more unfiltered, honest conversations about society, culture and early adulthood. 

It’s no secret we love a to do list, but this year we’re looking at our “To NOT Do List”. The behaviours we want to change, the little things we want to stop doing and what we’re making more space for (or as the Wicked-fans say, “holding space” for). 

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