None of us like having difficult conversations but they’re part of life so knowing how to navigate them and prepare for them can give you the confidence to tackle them head-on. Whether it’s calling out your racist relative, asking for that pay rise, confronting a friend or leaving a job, all of these conversations can feel hard to start. We’re sharing how we approach these topics and how to get used to initiating difficult conversations.

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This week’s episode is entirely dedicated to the anti-racism resources that we have found useful in the past few weeks. We know we still have a lot to do and that the list shared below is far from exhaustive but it’s a good place to start. Becoming actively anti-racist and being an ally is lifelong work, and something that we will continue to put in the work for both on and offline. We know that sometimes we will get it wrong but calling each other and ourselves out for it is how we can learn and do better. Please share with us any resources that you’ve found helpful recently and we can continue to share them with the rest of our community. And to our black listeners, know that we hear you, we see you, we respect you and we are committed to doing the work.

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A full list of resources can be found here: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1hUfLZGQlnasbjYr_xOzRXI4NrNYlddMMW0wX4vK3n44/edit?usp=sharing

The ones specifically mentioned in this episode are:

Why I Am No Longer Talking To White People About Race by Reni Eddo-Lodge

Why You Need To Stop Saying ‘All Lives Matter’ by Rachel Elizabeth Cargle

How To Talk About Racism At Thanksgiving by Rachel Elizabeth Cargle

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You guys loved our episode on organisation last year so this week we’re back getting all excited about getting your shit together – productivity. As two organised worriers, we’re always looking for new ways to increase our productivity so this week we’re sharing the routines that we try to stick to and the tips we swear by to make the most out of each day. Because being busy is not the same as being productive. Just as a side note, we record all of our episodes in advance and recorded this before social distancing really started, that said, chatting about productivity (especially if you’re now working from home) seem quite timely so hopefully this is still useful and we can serve as a nice distraction from what is going on in these scary times.

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