After we’ve both had wholesome Easter bank holiday weekends, of course we’re back with chaos! And this week we’re talking about how real self care is not sexy, content-worthy or “aesthetic” like the wellness and self-care we’re sold online. Instead self-care is boring, it’s effective, it’s preventative. But the online aesthetic over-complicates it and creates the pressure to do it “right”, rather than doing it genuinely for you. The self-care we’re sold online is very privileged and assumes that journalling, meditation, skin care and morning routines are a one-size fits all, without taking into account the unique needs of everyone.

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https://sabrinamolu.substack.com/

Back to the Future

Nosferatu

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Helli is back from a Bahamas cruise and Charlotte has booked a trip to Antibes so it’s safe to say we’re both ready for summer! But before then, we’re chatting about how to embrace cringe. You need to embrace cringe and be seen trying (and possibly failing) to reach success and the things you want, but so often the fear of failing or looking stupid or feeling embarrassed is a barrier that stops us persisting and going after what we really want.

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Adolescence on Netflix

Daring Greatly by Brene Brown

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This week we’re taking about the seemingly insignficant moments that end up being key in your life’s trajectory and what could have happened if things were ever so slightly different. We’re both utterly obsessed with the idea of “sliding doors” moments (no, not that dodgy Gwenyth film from the 00’s) and how things could have been, or maybe never would have been, different if things had panned out in slightly different ways.

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Seriously, asking for a friend, because we constantly tell each other to “trust the process” but when you’re going through that process it can be frustrating, infuriating, anxiety-inducing and just generally not all that enjoyable. Yes, that’s where e grow. Yes, it’s good to be uncomfortable sometimes. And OF COURSE we know we can’t just expect success and everything we want overnight, but that isn’t to say it isn’t sometimes kinda lonely. We’re sharing how we navigate these in-between phases, the reminders that keep us sane and how you can be a bit gentler on yourself when you’re in limbo.

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